Individuals with a “feels right” or kinesthetic convincer need to experience something physically or emotionally before they are truly persuaded. For them, tangible interaction or doing something alongside someone is often the key to being convinced of a product’s value or a person’s sincerity. They rely heavily on bodily sensations or internal cues—what many would call a “gut feeling”—to guide their decisions.
If you’re trying to persuade someone with this convincer style, avoid overwhelming them with lengthy explanations or visual aids alone. Instead, offer hands-on opportunities to try, touch, or directly engage with what you’re offering. Bombarding them with technical details might not just be ineffective—it could actually push them away.
Their sense of truth and trust often stems from physical feedback. This may even include expressions involving the senses of taste or smell, such as “this doesn’t sit right” or “it left a bad taste in my mouth.” What feels authentic or trustworthy often has physical markers like warmth, balance, or a sense of steadiness in their body.
If you don’t typically process the world kinesthetically, you can try tuning into this perspective by paying attention to how your body feels when you are deeply certain of something. Notice where you feel that confidence or unease. You might mentally visualize a belief first, then shift your attention to the bodily sensations that accompany it.
Common Kinesthetic Words and Phrases
To communicate effectively with a “feels right” convincer, use language that taps into physical or emotional sensation, such as:
feel, touch, connect, grasp, soft, smooth, solid, gentle, affectionate, flexible, warm, tender, sensitive, work with it, test it out, try it on, get a feel for it.
Conversely, when they are repelled by an idea, you might hear expressions like:
heavy, pressure, thump, cold, slapped in the face, burden, hurt, crush, bash, weight, tense, strain.
In Relationships
When it comes to showing love or care, these individuals often value physical affection and meaningful actions. Evidence of care might include:
- Warm hugs and physical closeness
- Acts of service, like cooking with love
- Massages or comforting touches
- Doing practical tasks around the house
They often express love the same way—through presence, helpful actions, or gentle physical contact. For example, a partner may show love by repairing things at home, tending to the garden, or offering thoughtful gestures like a shared meal or a relaxing bath.
If your partner processes love differently, it’s crucial to ask—not assume—what makes them feel cared for. A great question to ask is: “How do you know that I love and care about you?”